Author Archives: John Owens

About John Owens

John Owens is an intuitive coach who works with men, women, and couples who want to gracefully and mindfully transition their lives from earning and parenting focus to purposeful eldership and renewed intimacy.

On Apology

Let’s be real: relationships can be messy at times, and our good intentions can end up having unintended and hurtful consequences. Besides, sometimes in a pique of emotion or unaware moment, we say or do something that upsets the receiver … Continue reading

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What I Have Learned from Pain

Last month I wrote about what I have learned from fear. Now I’d like to share some things I’ve learned from pain. Though pain is a sensation and not an emotion, we will almost always have an accompanying emotion with … Continue reading

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What I Have Learned from Fear

Fear is an uncomfortable and unwanted feeling that I have spent most of my life trying hard to avoid. As I became so successful at suppressing my fear that I became virtually blind to it, and the effects it had … Continue reading

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On India’s Republic Day, 2019

Namaste. Distinguished guests, dear students, friends and relations, It is a pleasure and honor to address you again this year with a few remarks on this wonderful 70th Republic Day for our beloved India. I say our India, because though … Continue reading

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On Chin Bobbing

There is something interesting about human behavior that I have noticed since I’ve been a child, but have never heard it discussed, much less explained. I’d love to figure it out. I remember riding my bike as an eight-year-old, and … Continue reading

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Pune Journal 2018: What brought me here

Pune, India May 31, 2018:  Today I had my first full day of formally working in an organization since 2011. What is notable is that this was a manifest beginning of my Quest, and it took place in Lavale, outside … Continue reading

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On Renewal

When I think of renewal, I first imagine Mother Earth, who, as part of her yearly circuit around Sun, nods in precession, creating our seasons. From where I stand now, in southeastern Minnesota, that means from November to April or May … Continue reading

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Communicating Without Controlling Part II: Speaking Your Wants

This is the second in my blog series on Communication. This material comes from Susan Campbell’s book, Saying What’s Real. I find her suggestions have been extremely helpful to me to further develop with my partner our intimacy and trust. … Continue reading

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Communicating Without Controlling: Part I

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One of my favorite books on relationship is Susan Campbell’s Saying What’s Real. She claims that research shows that “nearly 90% of human communication comes from (the usually unconscious) intent to control.”  Think about that for a moment. Ninety percent of … Continue reading

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A Wink and a Smile…For Me!

I’m aware that for me, at least, a lot of my internal dialogue has a tendency to run myself down. In the morning, I often find inner “Mom” telling my inner CEO all the things I’d left undone yesterday (and … Continue reading

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Accessing the Power of Gratitude

I have been noticing the fall changes lately, enjoying walks filled with breathtaking colors and warm sunlight, and eking out those last few bike rides in mild weather. Sujata and I are also making our Thanksgiving plans, and I’ve been … Continue reading

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Righteousness: Guiding Light or Deadly Intoxicant?

Recently I got into an argument with a loved one. I felt I was due an apology. I pleaded my case, and did not get the response I was looking for. Suddenly, I was feeling a familiar sense of aggrandizement … Continue reading

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